Yep, that is what I was asking, that was the impression I got from your threads. I know from my experience I used to push my h and he used to appease everything to make me happy. I even asked him once if I could go travelling on my own for 3 months. He looked sad and said yes but that wasn't what I wanted him to say, I wanted him to say no, I'd miss you too much you can't go. I asked him why he had said yes to that quite outerageous question and he said it was because he wanted me to be happy and couldn't say no to me - he took me at my word and didn't understand my woman-speak. I guess what I'm saying is that sometimes you need to say no, or set clear perametres for us women. It makes us feel loved. I'm not talking about major things just little firm steps.
Is there anyway of 180'ing your general trend in this aspect of your interactions with your w? A lot of DBing is about focusing on yourself but also there is a part about your interactions with your partners and trying different techniques to change the interactions. Don't give up on your wife because you feel you can't please her, try something else and see how she responds.
If I have assumed loads here please forgive me. It was just something I picked up on. Maybe a 180 could be to start thinking that actually she is lucky to have you, she is damn lucky to have you! No human being is better than another. We all find different people attractive, that is what is so great. Kate Moss is supposed to be a super-model but loads of men I know don't find her at all attractive.
Next time your wife re-frames a situation, why don't you post it here and we can try re-framing it for you. I am learning some man-speak at the moment and it is really helping my interactions with my h. If you need any woman-speak ever all you gotta do its ask...
