Journaling: Had quite a nice evening with a woman I once worked with. We went out for dinner on the water front. Unfortunately, it rained most of the time, but later on there was a bit of sunshine.
True, I actually had to chuckle over his invitation. Remember the game? Well, he can't convince you to do what he wants one way, so he'll try another avenue. Just pop a note off to him and thank him for the invitation and let it go for now. I'm sorry, but I really do think he's playing mind games w/you. I will be the first to admit if I'm wrong later down the road.
As for the divorce. Of course, he can't deal w/the divorce, etc. It costs money and he would have to do the work. This is a very irresponsible and lazy man at this time. Just let it sit for now.
As for contacting you, just let it go. If he emails, there is the delete button that can be utilized. Nothing says you have to open, read and respond to his emails. Nothing more fitting than going dark for a while. He needs to realize that you are moving on w/your life.
Hi Snodderly, Thanks for your post, I appreciate it very much.
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Remember the game? Well, he can't convince you to do what he wants one way, so he'll try another avenue. Just pop a note off to him and thank him for the invitation and let it go for now. I'm sorry, but I really do think he's playing mind games w/you.
I must admit that I thought exactly the same.
I will send him a short reply in a few days. I have also decided to say nothing about him not contacting me for some time. Hopefully, he will notice by me not replying so quickly that I want to move on with my life.
Hi nlt and Cinders, Thanks for checking in on me and your encouragement and wishes. Yes, I get great advice.
It is funny you should say that I sound good. Yesterday I talked to the male friend I sometimes meet. He did not feel too well so I called to check on him. He told me that it is always great to talk to me since I am so cheerful and full of energy! (He knows about my sitch and told me already last year that I should just live my life to the fullest.) Well, I told him that I am not always so content and cheerful.
I also met an ex colleague and we went for dinner. Many years ago we worked in the same company. She asked me whether my H always comes home for lunch and I told her that he chose to be abroad for some time, and that we see each other from time to time. I also told her that I often visit places or go to events, and she found that I must be doing so many things that I cannot be bored. (In general, I don't tell people about my sitch, until I am sure what will happen.)
I also met a guy whom I often see when I go for walks. He seems to be quite shy as I often met him by chance during the last three years, and he never chatted me up. He always grinned from ear to ear. This was the first time we chatted for a while. He recently moved to the area but he is not at all my type. Of course I told him I was married but I would not mind getting to know him as an acquaintance.
I have prepared a brief answer to H but have not sent it yet. I am feeling better again and trying to detach some more. I just feel down when H comes up with ideas which include me.
Hi Snodderly,
I read on Mermaid's thread that it is your birthday today. Since you haven't got your own thread I chose my thread to say:
HAPPY BIRTHDAY! I wish you happiness, success and above all good health for your future life. (((HUGS)))
Hi BND, Nice to hear from you. I often think of you. You are so lucky that your H is "normal" again, well, at least most of the time – LOL! You are off on your family holiday soon. Have a lovely time.
Actually, I only went sailing ONCE. Unfortunately, I could not be reached and other times the weather was not good enough for sailing. At the moment the weather is changing for the worse, but hopefully, there will be still some nice days left and the guy will contact me.
I knew it!!!! Re H's invitation I was right!!!!! Just an hour after I sent my e-mail I received a reply saying that H's place did not sell and that the realtor does not reply to H's e-mails. It is partly my place and I should please help in finding out what is going on.
I can do this, but I am just so sad that he cannot tell me the truth straight out and has to use tricks on me! He really went down in my opinion.
My sister told me recently whether I really still want him back. I replied yes if he becomes the person he was before. She said that she thinks he will never change. I think she is right. I just cannot believe that after being in MLC for over 4 years, he has hardly changed a bit and I still cannot trust him at all!!!!!
I don't mind contacting the realtor, but I think it would be better if the realtor dealt with only one person. I think H should phone him, however, I am not sure where H is and if he can call long distance. Should I get in touch with the realtor?
If it is half yours, I think I would want to know as much as possible. You would be hearing it from the realtor himself, and not your H.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
