I guess it was a good thing that you held her while she cried about OM.
I'm really really happy for you.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
I don't think I've ever posted to you before, but I have been following your story. I remember being ecstatic for you when she cancelled the first court date. I was curious whether you were still planning to move away from Vacationland. No offence, but Pennsylvania isn't exactly a place I would enjoy living, although the summers are longer and the winters less strenuous.
Anyway, I just wanted to say how happy I am for you and your wife. I plan on rereading all your threads for inspiration and guidance. Way to go!!
Me: 59 H: 59 Together: 28 years Married: 25 years in August "There may be someone else" 12/26/07 H signed a one year lease 4/1/08 H moved out 5/11/08 H beginning to show a tiny amount of interest 7/5/08 Is it possible that he is courting me? 9/30/08
I had a dream about you last night. Don't worry, it was totally innocent.
Rats!
Thanks everyone. It is nice to be remembered, especially since I have been AWOL for a while.
Things are great. The old W is back, and I can see that she is putting forth a LOT of effort to show me love and affection, and to try to show me that she is here to stay. Our weekend alone was awesome - had nice weather at the beach, went for looong walks, hung out in the hot tub, ate out at places where they don't ask you whether you "want fries with that". Saturday we saw John Fogerty in concert. He played a lot of old CCR tunes and some stuff from his new album.
I don't want to gush too much, especially since I know where I was just a little while ago and what you all are still going through. But honestly, there has been very little rough spots so far in how we are interacting. I can't help but be amazed at how different things are so quickly. I'll admit, I was pretty down on DBing and the efforts we all put forth to try to save our M's. I thought it was a lot of effort for very little gain, and ultimately a waste of time. All I can say that it is true -- If your WAS has not completely checked out, and you still have the energy to keep the faith, your M can still be saved, no matter how far gone or how hopeless it seems.
Happy Birthday, indeed!
Me45 W35 M6 T8 D16 SD11 D0 Dec 07: Bomb July 08: Busted! Thread
Karen