H had 3 year affair and I never knew! (2)

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Thought I'd post back here as I was wondering if anyone else's spouse has admitted their infidelities and they were on a similar scale to my H's?

The reason I ask is that sometimes I think that I have been too reasonable about H's stuff, I've hardly got angry at all. I just feel sorry for him, genuinely sorry.

Is it that because I learned about all his stuff on one day, my brain hasn't really been able to process it? I can accept that he did it but it doesn't seem like he did it to me.

Is it because I was used to a R full of distance, lying and insecurity, and so all his stuff is just par for the course?

I ask, because I'm worried that one day (perhaps once I've met someone else?) I might come to a realisation and explode.