aiming for a new me 10

[tpaschal]

Dar,

Hope you are doing well! I haven't posted much for a while, but I've been following your sitch and others. Hope you and your D had a good weekend.

I hope you don't mind, but I want to hi-jack your thread for a minute. Sorry!

Jack-Three-Beans---you said your wife thanked you for the space. Is there such a thing as too much space? Is it possible that I erred by giving my H too much space? His behavior has been so erratic that in the beginning, I think the kids and I gave him too much space. H had tons of time to go try out his happy fantasy life with the 21 yr. old OW, without having to face up to his responsibilities. And now, even though I know it's not the happy fantasy life he though it would be, he's run so far (metaphorically; physically he lives 15 mins. away), that I think he thinks it would be impossible to come back. Maybe he really loves the OW, but just knowing him I think it's more likely that it's just easier to stay there than to have to admit that he's not any happier.

When do I give up? He's not made any baby steps back home. With him it's all about getting it over with asap so he can move on with his new life with OW, even though his procrastination is the main reason the D has taken so long.

Thanks for any advice or 2x4's.

T