Where do I go from here? pt. 2

[tpaschal]

Peace,

I'm glad you are getting closer to the point where it's easier to let go. I'm not there yet, but maybe after the D is final I'll be closer to that point, too.

I think S9 wants to share how he feels, but is scared to do it face to face because he's seen how H reacts to D14 when she does it. Of course, she does it in a very moody teenagerish sort of way.

And while your H at least had the guts and the maturity to tell your D that it was not her fault, my H responded to our D14 by telling her it WAS partly her fault that he left. Lovely, yes?

I have tried to facilitate relationships between H and the kids, but I think he is still in "run away from all responsibility" mode. I get the feeling he sees them because it would make him look bad if he didn't. For him, "out of sight, out of mind," is much easier.

I guess right now I can only pray that their relationships will improve. I do need to remember that expressing my pain to him will probably only drive him further away. Thanks for stopping by, and for your words of advice and encouragement.

T