Another one joins the flock (Part II)

[Mike85]

W called this am to say she was going to pick the kids up early, take them with her to her shop, then run errands. She figured that if she went to work, ran errands and then picked the kids up, she'd have spent no time with the kids today, so this is how she decided to get her time in.

W said that OM was obviously alive, told me that they had a "long talk," and that she "didn't let him get away with what he did." I think she only told me all that so that I didn't think she was completely oblivious to his failings. I *did* warn her weeks ago that he would eventually do what he did and that she had a HUGE blind spot about his alcoholism and immaturity, but back then she didn't believe me (ah... that MLC-tinted view). I've scrupulously avoided the 'I told you so' bit all weekend and today. Hell, I guarantee to you guys that he'll do it (fall off the wagon and go AWOL) again.

I told *her* that the only thing I cared about was whether SHE was OK. (I figured it was not only correct, but diplomatically avoided my sincere wish for OM's "unfortunate end.") She said she was OK.

There was a long pause. She asked if I was still there, and I said "yes." I said that I thought she was going to say something else. She did. She wanted to warn me that OM would be with her when she came to get the kids, since he was going to run around to get supplies for their camping trip. She told me that she warned him to stay in the car when they were in the driveway, as I would not be happy to see him. Gee......ya think?!?!?!

I knew damned well that although OM screwed up big time and that there are widening and increasing cracks in their relationship, that W and OM would/will still be together for a while, yet I still feel blue. Went to my classroom to work on stuff and be preoccupied, but it didn't work (did get stuff done though).

Went to Borders for an hour with my birthday coupon and still couldn't find anything worth buying (they never have what I want in stock). They offered to order me stuff, but they didn't seem to grasp that if I had wanted THAT, I would have gone through Amazon. [sigh].

On the drive home, I cranked my Tragically Hip CD. "Courage" came on first:

"There's no simple explanation
for anything important any of us do
And yeah the human tragedy
consists of the necessity
of living with the consequences
under pressure, under pressure.

Courage, my word, it didn't come, it doesn't matter,
Courage, it couldn't come at a worse time."

At least my boys will be with me from this evening through Friday. They always cheer me up.

And I'll make a point of re-reading my own posts about what occurred Friday to give me perspective.