I really appreciate your suggestions. I will post more about our history later today when I have more time.
I do think you have hit the nail on the head with the counseling angle, but truthfully, I don't think he would go of his own accord. The only way I think he would make the time would be for him to believe it was for "my" problem. When I dropped the "mini-bomb" on him about two months ago, he got the name of a MC/ST that same day but never scheduled the appointment.
About a week later, I pointed him to the link to Ch. 1 of SSM, and his reaction was nearly as dramatic as your wife's. After we ordered and read the whole book, I think he believes he is on the self-help fast track. I have ordered a lot more reading, but will add TNMS to the list.
