Nit I do understand believe me, a few months before I found out, he was talking about this woman, well I had actually made a joke and told him his girl friend was asking about him! I knew she fancied him but I was so confident that he wouldn't look twice at a woman like her. He got quite cross and said she's after anything with a pulse. She also left me v hurtful voive messages blocked my number til I told my x and he denied she had but an hour later I was unblocked! He aso gave me the same speech about not hurting me, he even mentioned it in the settlement. There are NO answers. We learn to move on and make a new life, it does not ,mean we stop loving. I could say my h was classic MLC, red sports car, gym, new clothes. I can choose to believe he will be back b/c these m don't last(4yrs so far) but he told his d he is happy and it shows no sign of not being so. So I moved on , no one else since but I do not think about him constantly or wonder the what if's.I spent 5 years doing that! He did what he did and I will never know the truth, so I don't pretend. Actions not words. Take care. You will get stronger and you will move on.
