I am going to have to start by helping myself to some large amount of crow...
You were so right about something - and I was so wrong! I know umimaginable, but true...
You have often posted about treating women in a manner that makes them feel good about themselves. I of course got up on my soapbox - secure women feel good about themselves - and all the rest of that well crap about being whole...
Anyhoo - as I was chiming in to validate KS Chicks post - when my phone rang....
I answered the phone and it was a man with a French accent. I had no idea who it was - and he said in this incredibly sexy voice with a French accent "ah so you do not remember me.... Me - I remember you."
Some background - about 1 1/2 years ago I had gone to a resort for a vacation. People that go to this place leave reality at the door. And for just a few days - no rules, no goals - just the freedom to let it all go. It was an island in the Caribean. I was laptopless - out of cell phone range - no Internet access. There were frozen drinks with umbrellas, music and dancing under the stars. What more could a girl ask for...
Well - perhaps an island romance?
I set my sights on a Frenchman that worked there and appeared to be quite the womanizer. He was utterly charming. He knew exactly what to say - and I knew he knew what to say to women - but for those few days - I allowed myself to positively swoon b/c nothing was real anyway - what was the harm of basking in an illusion for a few days.
And then I left the island - we exchanged addresses/phone numbers. Never really expected to hear from him again. And really the whole experience was part of the magical effect of being on the island. A part of me wanted to hear from him - never did - and that was that...
The voice on the phone was The Frenchman. He is no longer at The Resort. He started his own businesss in LA. And I know he is a womanizer. And I personally saw women melt when he talked to them. But once again - I couldn't help but be utterly charmed by him.
So the gEEk in me analyzed why?
He injected the following into the conversation:
(i) I have worked there for 20 years and as I was going through my things, I have only 4 people that I met that I remember. You are one of them. You are very special for me. This is a place where the staff are encouraged to interact with the guests and make them feel "special."(Okay - no eye rolling please)
(ii) I have thought of you at times since we met;
(iii) He ended the conversation giving me complete control. He said, you have caller ID no - so you have my number. Call me if you would like.
There were some other sentences - but he never ever made a single sexual innuendo. He did not make a single comment about my appearance. He did not even say he would call again. He left it completely up to me. I didn't feel pressured. I didn't feel like I needed to decide now - or that he would be hurt if I said no. In fact - he didn't even ask a question. He said he remembered me and was not in the least bit phased that when I answered the phone - I had no idea who he was...
So I post and post about all the things I am looking for in a man. And really - I haven't decided if I will call him. He really is not my type - he is an island romance - and the real world is a very different place. And perhaps I am ASSuming - but I saw the effect he had on women on the island and know he knows he has that effect on women. I suspect I am one of many women that reacts to him this way.
BUT I will tell you this - I have spent most of the morning walking around with the most ridiculous silly grin on my face.
What do women find attractive? I am a woman - and I have no freaking clue what women find attractive!
