I am really shocked that my situation has been going so well, considering all that was said during our last blow out. But it is going in a direction that I like.

My H is so excited now about going away to florida/bahamas for the week (who wouldnt be - right?). So I am now feeling much more at ease with the trip.

My H also ran into an uncle that works as an electrical lineman and was trying to talk him into getting a job there with him. He has offered it to my H for two yrs now, and my H was never interested. But now, my H is considering it. I am so pumped, and I hope he follows through. This would be the best thing for my H in my eyes. He needs to get away from the stress of owning a small business (that went bankrupt last yr.), and get some regular hours and pay. I think it will give him a whole new sense of pride and responsibility. It will help him get back on his feet and will help with his depressive states he goes through in the winter time when he has no work.

My H has also said that he is gonna put off buying a camp for a few years. He realizes it is just not feasible right now and said he knows the time isnt right. I dont know why he changed his mind, but thankfully he did. Because I would much rather feel like he is financially stable when he does it. Also, I love camps too, and I would love to have a stable enough relationship by the time he does look at camps as to help out with payments and make it ours, and not just his.

The other good news is that he is still interested in becoming a fireman, but he is putting that on hold until he feels more stable. I would love for him to follow that dream, but I know it is really hard to get jobs in that field in our area. In order to be hired he would have to live a half hr. away in the city for at least a year before they would consider him a resident to that city. That would kill our relationship, and he would party so hard and be right next to all the strip clubs - so I am happy he is reconsidering. And we will remain in our suburb for now.

I dont know why he has changed his mind on so many things, maybe it was due to some of the things that were said in our spat, or maybe he is just coming back down to earth. I dont know, but I really like it.

H has also came out to two big events ( my Best friends 30th b-day, and our friends sons baptism and 1st b-day) and hung out with all of our old friends. It feels so good to have him with me when I go to these types of things, and he voluntarily came to both. These are nice baby steps that he is taking. I am so thrilled.
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