XH was telling me that he feels like I'm rubbing the past 6 months in his face by mentioning the EA and the new friend and that he's tired of me trying to make him feel guilty. That I ask questions just to shove the answers at him later. He right I do that and I know it's wrong.
I've promised so many times not to bring things up but he's told me that even when he feels comfortable telling me things I throw that back at him too.
Jen,
Stop doing it!!!! Sweetie, forgive him....truly forgive him. Put the thought of of an OW or EA or anything like that in the past.
What your H is telling me is that, he has considered coming back but he can't see spending the rest of his life being punished for what has happened in this short period of time. Yes it hurts, but forgive him.....it is not easy but do it. Looks like you have your "to do list" from your H to get back together...now do it.
Believe me, I have seen some close friends of us go through something like this. The H in the relationship had a PA over 15 years ago. The W in the relationship continues to ride his case, give him crap for it, put him down and has had some long term PAs. Basically she never forgave him for his mistake. He has stuck it out to keep the family together (he is miserable)....this isn't the type of relataionship you want to have when you get back together.
TwinDad Me 39, W 36, M 11 W - MLC, WAW???? 2 Kids B/G 3 YRS Old Start of the Long and Bumpy Road..... On the verge of piecing.....a new beginning
