Thank you so much for your words of comfort! I would have to assume my H is the same as your H. It's like you said our sitch's are so much alike.
I know it wouldn't do any good to call. I have not been the one to contact my H at all. He has been the one to send me emails. Of course he is wanting something when he does send them.
Thank you so much, I feel for you too b/c I also know what you are going through. ((((HUGS))))
Thank you so much for sending the links to these. You are right they are very comforting. I love them both!!
I just can't believe this has happened & so quickly. My life has been turned upside down for sure. In my mind I always thought he would come back to me.
hope you have a wonderful day today. thank the Lord for all of the little blessings in your life right now.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Nit, how are you doing today? Glad BND sent you some links that are comforting.We all need to hide away and lick our wounds from time to time and find strength and comfort. I remember feeling just plain stupid and foolish because I knew for certain my H would be back.Nothing and no one would persuade me otherwise. It was just not possible that he didn't feel the same way as me after a life time together you don't just stop loving someone and move on and those that did or had certainly didn't have the sort of love we shared, ad infinitum. I politely listened but inside I thought no your wrong. So you are not the first to feel this way and you will continue to think this until you are ready to start healing and that takes as long as it takes. Take care.
Well, I'm not crying anyway, I cried just about all night last night. I'm still really down. But I know I have to move on. I still feel like he is supposed to come back but it doesn't look like it right now. I know I didn't imagine his love for me, in fact people always told me they could tell how much we loved each other by the way we looked at each other.
I'm not making an excuse for him b/c it was his choice but I just know he is in MLC, everything I've read in that book so far is just like him. Down to the parents roll in it. I'm sure he has re-wrote history but I'm not sure if he will remember the good times.
How could one woman have such an affect on someone like him who once had moral values & took marriage vows seriously??? And didn't like it when women ran after MM & a woman who had been married so many times. I just don't understand. He tried to talk a friend of ours out of M a woman who had been M 3 times. He said she doesn't have a good track record, it won't last. Now what has he done??? But I know he doesn't see that right now. I don't think he knew she had been M that many times until I told him in the letter I wrote.
I know I've got to start healing but I'm not exactly sure how & I don't know how to let him go.
Part of me thinks that he or she sent that email to hurt me. Why does he want to still hurt me. He knows how I am & how hurt I would be. He told me he didn't tell me about OW b/c he didn't want to hurt me & he was sorry that I found out the way I did. I loved him & he knew that, so why the hurt???
you have many questions and there are no easy answers but one thing is very clear. the enemy has a stonghold on these spouses and it is important that you continue to pray for your H (prayer reference: Psalm 51 vs 10-11) and also pray that God give you strength and comfort thru all of this. He puts us thru things for a reason and many times, we don't know what that is. try and focus more on what you will do for you and less on your h. Give it all to God and you will soon see that this burden will be lifted from you.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Nit I do understand believe me, a few months before I found out, he was talking about this woman, well I had actually made a joke and told him his girl friend was asking about him! I knew she fancied him but I was so confident that he wouldn't look twice at a woman like her. He got quite cross and said she's after anything with a pulse. She also left me v hurtful voive messages blocked my number til I told my x and he denied she had but an hour later I was unblocked! He aso gave me the same speech about not hurting me, he even mentioned it in the settlement. There are NO answers. We learn to move on and make a new life, it does not ,mean we stop loving. I could say my h was classic MLC, red sports car, gym, new clothes. I can choose to believe he will be back b/c these m don't last(4yrs so far) but he told his d he is happy and it shows no sign of not being so. So I moved on , no one else since but I do not think about him constantly or wonder the what if's.I spent 5 years doing that! He did what he did and I will never know the truth, so I don't pretend. Actions not words. Take care. You will get stronger and you will move on.
