Sorry, Guys...one more part of the convo with H I forgot to mention. Would like some advice as to whether or not I said the right things...okay okay...I know I shouldn't even have been talking about the R...but...well just tell me what you think...
H: I don't think I can ever feel "that way" about you again. Me: What way? H: Wanting to give you affection Me: No, you won't have those feelings come back over night...it takes time. H: I don't think they can Me: They can if you want them to...I think you shut them down because you obviously think I was rejecting you sexually because I was interested in someone else and although I know you can't understand what I was really going through...I think if you could at least admit that maybe I had other reasons that weren't about you for not wanting to have sex you may not be so angry and take it so personally. It truly wss a hormone imbalance and my low self esteem demons that ruined by sexual drive. I have always been attracted to you...I just couldn't show it. I know I made mistkaes...I know I messed up...I can imagine how you feel, but please try and put what you thought was causing my problems aside, because your thoughts were wrong.
Do you think any of that will help him to get over his anger? I really think that he just spent so much time blaming himself for the lack of sex..trying to figure out what was wrong with him and then eventually getting so angry at me for making him feel this way.
