D17: You mean Michael? I think he's gay, he sure looks like it. He wasn't there but mom told me you went down there and accused her of having him as her boyfriend.
What the heck, Frank? You know better than to pump the kid for information, I don't care if she IS 17 years old - it's not right. Don't do that to her anymore!
And just my opinion but it doesn't matter of the guy is a tap-dancing-rainbow-flag-wearing homosexual - she's involved (or getting involved) with him emotionally when the number one person in her life that she's emotionally connected to should be her husband - and since it's not, she should get the flip out of your house for good. It is a betrayal regardless of the fact she has said she wants out of the marriage and it is ridiculous of her to think she can have those types of relationships and still live under your roof and eat at your dinner table.
Perhaps I'm wrong to take the position I am taking regarding your sitch but thinking along the lines that she's MLC - which we have been assuming - consequences and repercussions are important. Sheltering and coddling have the exact opposite effect in that she's not going to love you for your loyalty and compassion. She's NOT terminally ill. She's deluded - that's what MLC DOES to a person. HOWEVER, shielding her from the consequences do nothing but strengthen the delusions in the end. Because think about it - if the person is wrong, someone somewhere ought to have the balls to say so, wouldn't you think? - or to allow natural circumstances to occur. If no one does that, the MLCer has nothing telling them what they're doing is wrong. Her father and stepmother tell you she's out of her tree but how honest are they really with her? Also, your occasional pissy attitudes don't do a thing, Frank.
