Help...I think I did a 180...I hope

[Sophie]

Hi V...how nice to hear from you. Thank you for checking on me.

In-laws came here Thursday around noon. We had a really nice time...FIL power washed the deck and siding. MIL helped me clean a little, took the kids to the neighborhood pool, we all made, ate dinner (nice way to spend my 15th wedding anniversary:))

Maybe, that is why he avoiding the 'scene'. I thought they all would be out...and let me stay home and work, as I mentioned I needed to do.

The only thing weird is that H, their son, is never mentioned. It's like he doesn't exist!

I am the only one who mentioned his name and that just came out in normal conversation. No questions, nothing.

Around 7:30pm H called his mom on her cell. She didn't move out of hearing distance, so I guess there wasn't anything to hide.

That still hurt that he called her....at my house. But, he knew they would here, I told him earlier in the week and I'm sure his mom called ahead as well. He didn't make any plans to go to dinner with them and the kids.

I notice he called conveniently, too late, to go eat. H told his mom he was still working.

The awkwardness with inlaws is BEFORE they get here. As soon as they drive in, it's natural, nice and loving.

MIL calls me her DIL. FIL says son needs a taste of reality.

H gets upset with ME when I comment that a relationship btwn me and any of his family members is strained!!!

I know! He doesn't want to face responsibility for damaging so many relationships. I tell him...'that's what happens in these situations'.

Anyway...I think a huge part of my H's issues concern emotional abandonment by his parents. H has accused me of emotionally abondoning him.

Early Friday morning, inlaws left with the kids. Inlaws took kids to their house, near the beach, for about 8 days.

This is the first time in 15 years that I have had more than a weekend to myself!! It is....quiet!

This is the first the inlaws have been alone with my kids. The inlaws keep asking me to join them...but, I'm enjoying my time.

It is weird that H is just down the road, this is the first time since S13 was born, that we are alone....only we aren't in the same house. But...I'm not contacting him.

This is the first time H has no idea what I am doing. Since he left, he knows I am tied down with the kids. Not much room for 'galavanting'....

I have been without the kids for 3 days...and I can't get over how H can go for weeks without contact with his kids!

How does he do that?