So H told me this weekend that he saw OW last week, he saw her at a coffee place and stopped to say hi. He said he realized that it was a mistake and it also made him realize that they can't be friends. He said he just wants everyone to be okay. I know that is personality is to try and fix everything, I think he thought if they could be friends that then it would be okay. I told him I understand his intentions, but I don't think you can really be friends with someone once you have a relationship with them. He was glad I understood his motives. A bit later in the day I told him I would prefer that he not have contact with her, and he said he understood, he said he didn't blame me for saying that or being mad, and I said I wasn't mad but I wanted him to know my feelings.
He also said he would like to start couples therapy again, we are deciding if we should go to one of our current therapists or go to a 3rd person. I am going to call my therapist and get recommendations and he is going to do the same and then we shall go from there.
I did okay this weekend, still feeling down and put upon quite a bit. Need to keep working.
Me 41 H 42 DD 11 DS 8 M 18 bomb 8/3/06 separating 9/18/08
