I don't know why but somewhere along the way between dating and being married. Some people forget that when you are with someone you do need to maintain your individuality but you also need to remember that it is a give and take situation. What I think may have went wrong in my marriage was the I kept on giving and my W just kept on taking. And we ended up accepting that what I needed was not important and what she needed was. Now we know this is an unhealthy relationship. AND like a big ocean liner you can't stop it and turn on a Dime. What I am seeing is it is taking time for me to get my confidence back and for W to let go of the "It's about me" syndrome. If you have a chance to make your H understand that you can fulfill his needs as long as he does yours you will be in a better place. It can not be a one way street. Especially when kids are involved. Your need "more time just the two of you" is something that if it does not work out.... well at least the kids you have now will be more grown. His way "Having the baby now" if it does not work out... ya have another life to care/worry about. You can't build a second floor on a house until you know the walls on the first story are strong enough to hold it up....
Dr LOve
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
