Her head appears to be cloudy thats for sure. I mean, it is a crippling, horrible thing to have to drop her off after a great day and night of fun only to know she is going to be talking and saying God only knows what to this other guy in another country.
Hope4us:
I sort of have a plan and, in a strange way, I HAVE been following much of the advice laid out in Divorce Busting. Oddly, when I was consciously trying to get meets it didn't happen. After weeks and weeks of failure I reached the point where I was genuinely trying to move on I instantly got attention. Just weird.
Anyway, the DB tips I have put to use so far are:
Keeping my mouth shut about OM, affair in general and the 'past'
Pretending like I'm happy (or at least indifferent) and always concentrating and focusing on a fun and perky attitude (even when sometimes I want to scream WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU!!!!)
Attempting to look after myself and develop my own life (sort of happening but social aspect has slowed down alot recently)
I think if I mention the OM at this point I will push her away. In fact, I'm certain of it. It is VERY difficult to know exactly what she feels she is gaining from all of this if not openly indicating that reconciliation is a very real possibility (in terms of her actions)
That aside, as I say, there is a deep-rooted fear and dread in my stomach every time I drop her off that I might suddenly get a phone call explaining all of this was a mistake and she doesn't want to continue etc.
Every time I drop her off I think that... and so far all she has done is the opposite. She just seems to be keeping me where she wants me and him where she wants him.
You are right... I can't let this go on that much longer. It is breaking me apart and sometime soon we are going to NEED to talk about things.
We have a couple more activities planned over the next two weeks. I think I shall go ahead with these, hope they happen and just enjoy myself with her.
After that.. I think in two or three weeks... I think then I am going to have to talk to her. I am dreading it.
