It's best to avoid any relationship talk if possible. You shouldn't tell her to file, or not to file. That's the safest thing. In the end she will do what she wants regardless of what you say. However, pursuit or trying to hold on can sometimes cause an opposite reaction (they pull to get away ONLY because you are holding on).
With anything you do or say, gauge reaction. If it works continue, if it doesn't, don't repeat.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
