I agree with Ms Imp & Ready, keep your boundaries, practice flirting & just talking to men.
I think your new "abode" sounds wonderfully peaceful & calm.
Hugs
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.