You're doing well, you've got it right. You're W wants it all her way, but reality is quite different and she's feeling that big time. You are doing the right thing by remaining peaceful, friendly, polite, unselfish, joyful, and moving forward with your life. She would love some company down in her pit of despair, but you are a rock that need not go there.
It may take a long time for her to realize life is better in reality with you and her family, than life in her imaginary world. She may never get there, but then again, she just might turn the corner as my W did. It took several years though so don't be in a hurry.
Take care my brother, and the Holy Spirit continue to guide you.
God Bless,
COG
My Story http://www.divorcebusting.com/forum...&Number=660444&page=2#Post660444
Brother it has been a long time. Alot has happened and not happened the last 6 months. Praise God, he has shown me alot about my self over the last 11 months. That manic person you counseled many months ago is gone. I still have my moments, but the Lord has given me much patience and strength. You are right about my wife, she is miserable.unhappy, always complaining about something, i certainly don't think she thought this would turn out like it has.
Thank You for being there then, and for being here now. God Bless, hope to talk to you soon.
craig
Last edited by craig54; 08/07/0811:40 PM.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
Just got back from church camp. I had a great time. Got to interact with some of the members that i did not really know yet.Weather was perfect, kids everywhere, having a great time. The Lord is good. Actually he is awesome.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
Craig, it sounds like you are doing very well considering your situation. I have gotten closer to God through all my sitch and I'm really glad that something good has come out of all of this. Do you think God plans all of these things for a reason or just sits back and watches how we react to our problems? I spent a lot of time blaming God, blaming myself, self pity. I just wonder if I am being nieve or doing the right thing waiting for my W to come out of this. Itmakes it especially tough for me because there is an OM involved. I hope you can hang in there. Kepp trusting Him and you'll be OK!
H 42 W 37 M17 T20 years 3 daughters 11,11,14 seperated 11/26/07 EA neighbor/ moved in w/ him 2/8 Filed for D 01/08 finalized soon
Patrick, thanks for posting. It was because of the bomb 11 months ago that I have come back to a relationship with Jesus. I think the Lord uses situations to wake us up, and to bring us closer to him. It has been hard, but extremely worth it for me. I am much happier being reengaged with the God, than i have been for many years. I don't know how this whole thing will turn out.
But i know the Lord is control, and i can only work on myself, I cannot change my wife.
I never blamed God, I new my relationship with him was being neglected, actually i praise him for this oppritunity to stand in for my wife and pray for her. My trust is in the Lord, and when he says it is time to move on, i will move on, until then i will continue to pray for my wife. Patrick keep trusting in the Lord, pray for your wife, concentrate on yourself and your kids.
God bless,
Craig
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
Your pretty much nailed the condition my wife finds herself in. I am not sure if it unnerves her when I don't react to her at all. I just let her talk and let off some steam.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
I don't believe I have posted to you before. You sound strong and solid in your stand. They will continue to try and push your buttons to get you to look negative and bad. Stay strong.
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Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Wife came over last night after her softball game. She referred to her living quarters ( our travel trailer) as the "Cell". One of her work friends wanted to see , the Cell, and just said Oh my . I just smiled at her, did not say anything. It is her choice to live there, not mine. I know she hates it.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
Even after 11 months it still hurts to "act as if with wife when we are at family functions, we laugh, we have a good time,but it is not real. Tonight I left before she did. I tell ya, this is hard, so hard. To love someone who apparently does not love me back. It is only by God's grace and love that I am able to do this. But it is still heart wrenching at times. She looked so beautiful in her outfit tonight. Enough of this dribble.
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