Last night XH and D got home at around 8PM and I was dressed up and ready to go out. XH said "oh I didn't know when you told me to take D at 7 you meant at night". I went out at 9pm and went home around 10:30pm. We spoke about Sunday and i suggested breakfast and he said ok. XH left a few minutes later.
This morning he picked us up at 10am and we went for breakfast. Later we went to buy the school supplies for D and brought the packages home. Then we headed out to the park and were there for about 3 hours. D met a new friend who just happens to be starting at her school in September. We went to McDonalds with him and his Mom and Sisters. We got home at 7pm and XH left again without coming upstairs. He gave D a kiss and then me.
The day was good although I had one slip up. While going for Breakfast we passed a restuarant and he said the name. I asked if he had ever been there. Turns out his "friend" and he went about 2 weeks ago...turns out she paid. Apparently she pays for everything. I got upset for a bit and he started to tell me he was going to take me home. He didn't after I aplogized. But for about 20 minutes at breakfast we were a little hostile. He told me I was a pain in the a$$ and always had been and that he was tired of putting energy into our M and that's why he left. Things calmed down and the day turned out good.
At the park I asked him if he wanted to see my new tattoo and he gawked at me (he didn't know I had it done yesterday) and said no he wasn't interested. XH doesn't like tattoos much but like he said its my skin I showed him anyways and I told him I loved it.
Last edited by JenInVen; 08/11/0812:27 AM.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Hi P, the pain in the a$$ is true. I am a pain sometimes. We both caused some stress in the M and when I am a pain it bugs him. In terms of today I was a pain for him because I brought up the "friend" and it wasn't called for. I didn't act as if thats for sure...she bugs me but I shouldn't have let XH know.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
I find it hard to hide emotion in my face Jen. When I am truly upset about something, it shows whether I want it to or not. Sometimes those things just happen and there is nothing you can do about it. It's water under the bridge now.
I still like your interaction. Eventhough there are a few tough times here and there, I don't think they are overtaking your XH's thoughts. There's still interaction, but he flees from hard situations. It can be expected, but just focus on the bright side, the next day, or whenever, he gets over it and the good interaction starts up again.
FLoyd The grass is always GREENER over the septic tank.
Thanks Floyd, I think that his spending so much time around me, even if it is with D too, shows a lot of potential. I also know that after this weekend his "friend" must be seething in jealously. Or maybe she thinks he's only with D and not me. I know that sometimes when he leaves us he goes to see her but how long will she be content with seeing him for 2 hours some days and only AFTER he sees us. I need to find more ways to get him to be here in the evenings so that she has to wonder lol.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
They say 1 month for every year married/together right? So we've been together for 10 years and been S for 5 months and D for 2 for a total of 7 months. Does that mean I only get 3 more months to "try" before it's a lost cause?
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
nope- AT LEAST one month of CHANGE for every year...my DB coach actually said no timeline....i think thats just a way to keep us from giving up...you get to decide how long you can do this....
he is with you so much Jen- it almost seems like you are married part time!
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((((((((Jen)))))))) There's no timeline! Well, other than the one you get to set. He obviously still feels for you, heck, he calls you his W! I think you are doing great, Jen!
I got upset for a bit and he started to tell me he was going to take me home. He didn't after I aplogized. But for about 20 minutes at breakfast we were a little hostile. He told me I was a pain in the a$$ and always had been and that he was tired of putting energy into our M and that's why he left. Things calmed down and the day turned out good.
I showed him anyways and I told him I loved it.