dont send the letter. i think you already know that in your heart.
in regards to your son....that poor boy! I have learned through much counseling for my kids, with my kids and on my own that leanring to voice your own feelings WITH NO EXPECTATIONS is huge.
You mentioned that s9 has a counselor. I have found in my stitch I have used my C over and over with my kids. s19 has set boundaries and is doing really well emotionally....misses his dad but knows taht getting morsels of a lie isn't worth it. D11....she sees how it is working for s19 but knows she is in a different spot...however she is also learning that she CAN state her feelings and set boudnaries of her own that help her OWN heart heal.
Ask the C about your s9 and the letter. I woudl strongly suggest getting htem all into hte c to talk and have that safe place. I know with my kids them having that place takes pressure off of them...it is place where they can share their hearts etc. and not have guilt. (i worry about that with my kids some...i know they love me and i know htey love their dad.)
t- you deserve to be treated with respect and dignity. He doesn't deserve to know how you love him or loved him...at least not right now.
M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06 Moved out 3/12/07 D final 7/30/2008 finding myself again
