Very interesting Bear. I can't quite bring myself to call you SOB, I mean, I don't even know you!
Brings great meaning to 'baby steps'. It makes total sense to us all that we have to start small, but many of us can't quite implement it without getting frustrated and giving up.
In my case, I'm trying to figure out how to make my H realize that time with just him and I is just as important as time spent with the kids. Your analogy reminded me that I'm probably not going to get him from point A (thinking that time alone can wait until we're 50) to point B (realizing how great it would be to get away for a weekend) without several intermediate steps. Thanks for that reminder, as frustration was setting in.
I wish I didn't have to convince him that spending time alone with his hot wife is a good thing, I wish I didn't have to convince him that he's lucky his hot wife still wants to spend time alone with him after being together for 16 years (I'm 33 and we started dating when I was 17). I wish I didn't have to remind him that he takes our marriage for granted. But to dwell on what I wish wasn't so, doesn't get me any farther ahead....
Heather
"Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."
