For the Guy with Kids and a WW 9

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I went to pick my D's for church today. GBG let me in. Was still brushing D6 hair. Offered me some coffee. We talk about meeting later because she still hasn't washed clothes and wants to pack the girls clothes. We leave. It felt ok. A new sofa, matching chair and chaise. Girls have those big wooden bunk beds. The bottom bunk can roll away, built in dresser and desk. A matching chest of drawers. Wow.

On the way to church, I ask how they fit everything in the car.

They look at each other. They spill.

OM helped GBG with his truck. He helped put everything together. They feel bad. I'm upset but not trying to show it. D11 mentions that mom didn't want her to mention it, but that she also didn't want them to lie to me. They like his dog.

I can see D6 very upset. Before walking into church, I take D6 to the side and ask if she is ok. She says she misses me. She looks really upset. In church, very clingy. I ask her if she would like to go outside to talk. She says yes. D11 had gone to kids church. D6 and I go around the church to a grassy area and sit. I ask her to be honest. She starts to talk about Tom.

How he helped. They all went swimming. I ask her how she feels about him. She says she doesn't any guy at the apartment. But he is nice and told her about all his animals. I ask if she told this to mom. She said she asked mom why she called him "babe", and that mom explained that it is a habit. She will try to stop. I ask her again why she doesn't tell mom how she feels.
"I don't want to make her mad."

I explain honesty. That she needs to always tell the truth. Even if it is hard. No matter what. I ask her if she wants me to talk to mom for her. She says yes.

We go get D11 and do the same thing. We all talk. D11 doesn't want to hurt moms feelings or make her mad. He is nice, though. "But I know Juli doesn't like him."

I ask her how she feels. "I don't want mom to have a boyfriend."

I tell her that I plan to talk to mom. We are going to go be honest with her even though it is hard. Right. They agree. I explain to them that both of us will never know how they really feel about something if they are not honest with us. Both of us. I tell them also, that if I talk and it doesn't sound right, then to tell me so. I don't want to put words in their mouths. The say ok. We stop for a drink and head back to the apartment. I tell them to be strong.

We knock. Takes a little while. GBG opens the door, hair wet and just out of the shower. Puppy trying to get out. She looks at me funny.
"Tom is here."
She lets us in. He is sitting on the sofa, mug of coffee on the table.
"We came back to talk." I look at him. "And your leaving."
"ok." He is up walks past me to get his keys on the counter. I'm looking at him. Direct look. I'm thinking 'Look at me MFer. Fing puss.' Never a glance at me.

We all sit down.





What a day. I'm fixing dinner right now. I have to get back later. The soap opera will continue.

Sorry. And yes, she's still alive. She is actually going to come over later to bring the girls clothes.

I'll continue later.