I'll sail this ship alone

[mishka422]

(((((((Julia))))))))))

I don't have any wisdom to impart either but I wanted to give you a hug and tell you it will get better!

Your H is probably just as lonely and confused as you are right now. IMO, let him stew in his own juices. Let him come to miss you. Let him contact you. He is the one who wanted this mess in the first place and he will need to make the hard moves to get back into your good graces. In the meantime, I think going to your family's houses is wonderful! Being with people who love and care about you is so important for your own wellbeing.

I understand the feeling of loneliness all too well. I feel it every day and there are two other people and a dog in my house! Being with other people doesn't always alleviate that alone feeling. There is an intimate connection that we have with our spouses that no one else can replace. Those who have never been in that situation don't understand that and want to play the blame game because they hurt for you and don't know what else to say.

We understand. We are here to listen to you and be your companions through this struggle. Lean on us whenever you need to.