Sweet Gypsy. You DO have a magic kumquat wand. You just need to learn how to wield its magical powers. Takes some practice.
I agree with Ready... get out their and flirt. Take it as a role you've landed in a play. You're this fabulous, beautiful aurburn haired siren and the men drop at your feet when you give them a coy glance and dazzling smile. One day you should dare yourself to wink at a handsome stranger. ;-)
Right now you have no idea how amazingly sexy and beautiful and engaging you are - your life has been full of things that no girl and/or women should have to endure. Give yourself time to heal, but KNOW you will be blissfully happy someday soon. You will. I promise you.
M: 37 H: 36 Married: Aug 13, 2004 Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008 Reconciled: September 2008 Current: Ambivalence