Detach, Ali-girl, Detach!

You're riding HIS roller coaster, hon, and it's getting you down right along with him. Step off that ride as much as you can -- it's an unhealthy one right now!

Go back to your old DB techniques, Ali:

(1) Focus on YOU, and making yourself as happy as possible.
(2) Formulate a GAL plan and follow it.
(3) Present your husband with an independent, self-assured, self-contained wife.
(4) Support your husband, but DO NOT bite when he baits you. Ali. He's looking for a fight right now -- DON'T LET HIM DRAG YOU INTO IT! He wants to unconsciously place you in the role of an enemy that he can strike out against -- don't permit him to place you into that role.

You know the drill! You've been here before.

Detach and focus on yourself for a while. Take care of Alimari first and foremost!

-- B.

Last edited by Bagheera; 08/10/08 08:27 PM.
Me 50, W 45, M for 26 yrs
S25, D23, S13, S10
20+ year SSM; recovery began Oct 2007