Sounds like a very positive evening. Since your W is noticing the changes and the wall is lowering slowly, keep doing what you're doing. I like the idea of hanging back a little- don't start pursuing, keep your expectations low and keep using the times when you see/speak to each other to show her your changes.
Just relax and breath. This is a great first step, but don't rush. Remember, these things take time, and you want to create an entirely new relationship. So think of it that way, and don't come on too strong!
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Thanks all ,I'm trying to relax and take it a bit slow.My feelings are so back and forth at this point.I want her to come back and our time together is nice but when all is said and done she leaves to be with OM.Wish there was a magic bullit hehe.But I feel I am making progress,I stopped by her classroom yesterday on my way home from work and helped her move heavy stuff and unpack some things(she is a school teacher).I think she appreciated the help.I am resolved to not call or persue her,even thou every fiber of my being wants too.
Jeff
M 44 W 40 D 21 S 14 Married 20yrs Together 23yrs Bomb on 5/14/08 discovered OM W moved out 5/17/08 w filed for D Feb 09 D final 10/18/09
She actually stopped by the house after I got home from work yesterday.Nice conversation...totally unlike the past few months.Havn't called or persued her.Just hard to take her being nice and still with the OM.But baby steps I guess
Jeff
M 44 W 40 D 21 S 14 Married 20yrs Together 23yrs Bomb on 5/14/08 discovered OM W moved out 5/17/08 w filed for D Feb 09 D final 10/18/09
