YR, Steelers, Steelers' analogy is very good. I hope that I have already reached the most painful part. I just then heard Joni Earickson's words on Moody Radio saying that we experience the best or deepest fellowship with God when we go through suffering.
I'm so happy for you! I guess I thought I had a better chance of my H returning if he had not gotten married so quickly. This has really thrown me for a loop. Never expected this!!!
YR, I do hope you continue posting. We all need hope while we're still in the middle of the tornado! And I know that I, for one, would like to know what you did that worked! I will look up your old threads at some point, but I already spend WAYYYYY too much time on this board as it is, so it may be a while!
I am so thrilled for you that you have had a fully positive outcome to your sitch! Happy belated anniversary, and may you have many more wonderful years together!
If you have a chance, I would love to have your advice on my sitch (sorry, I know my posts are generally *ridiculously* long)...! Thank you for serving as a lighthouse for those of us still awash at sea!
Peace, Dawn
Me 45/H 47, no kids Together since 1985; M/1992 Bomb1 (EA-OW1, age 22) 2001 Bomb2 (EA/PA-OW2, age 22) 10/2007, A continues H left 11/24/08 minimal contact, no legal action http://tinyurl.com/DawnHope1
IMHO, when he rushed into marrying the ow shows that he is not in his right mind. He will see that he has made a big mistake. Like I told you before they have only seen the good in each other and not the bad. When the bad happens he will fall apart!
Now what you need to do is get out there and stop worrying about your h and the ow. Let them spin themselves out of control. Do something for yourself!!!!!!
I know what I did was a learning experience. I learned as I went along just like all the rest of you. Some things worked and others didn't. When it doesn't work, change it.
I do know what definately didn't work was the crying, pleading, asking questions. That only sent my h away! Once I got to the point where I didn't call him anymore and left him alone is when things started to change. Granted it took a while and it didn't happen over night. I had to set some boundries, I went to C and I got myself together. I grew so much during this whole crisis and so did my h. Our lives are so much better!
Read my old threads and you will see what a mess I was!!! LOL
You have to remember you are the only one that you have to take care of right now. I don't want you to get sick from all the worry! Please take care of yourself!!
