How to tell the kids

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Unfortunately, someone (my mother) told my kids that their Dad wasn't moving to the new house with them. We are in the process of selling our house and moving to another. My kids were told this while visiting their other Grandmother. It is a 5 hour flight to this GM's house so all the comforting I could do was over the phone. I didn't tell them it was true or untrue, but that we'd talk about it when they got home. I told them I wanted them to have a good time on their trip and not to worry about it right now. I am sorry we waited to tell them. I have wanted to tell them, but H keeps wanting to put it off, as I know he has doubts. Not enough doubts to stop the D proceeding, though. My kids will be home on Monday. We will talk with them then. I desperately want to save my marriage. However, I do not want my kids hearing things from others either. I know my H is conflicted, but I feel like he just needs to make up his mind. If he is conflicted, then put the D on hold. If he is sure then don't. Things between us have been better than they have in years, though, so I am enjoying that while I can. Soon me and the kids will move out and the reality of our sitch will be more readily felt. I pray often for healing for our family and for my protection for my kids. I will continue DB'ing and working on myself. I know this is the key to my marriage having any chance.