Don't forget to replace the battery. Gee, my car has the remote built in. I guess it runs off the computer/battery in my car. H has the handheld remote with actual batteries in it. However, if there is a power outage nothing will work!
Make a note to put all of your keys on the same keychain, if you can.
Hugs!!!!!
Last edited by steelersfan; 08/10/0804:10 PM.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Thanks Steelers. I am crying and just want to cry all day long. It's 11:15am and I still have not eaten breakfast! I missed my volunteer work at Church this morning. I bet they were wondering what happened to me. I didn't have anyone's ohine number to clal and let them know I got locked out.
I have a very important presentation tomorrow morning, not looking forward to it.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Steelers, Yes, the boys left last Thursday. They emailed me to tell me they got back safely - sweet of them. They also emailed Fri night to tell me they loved the Olympics opening ceremony. It was a really nice surprise. I was going to call them and ask about the cremony.
Sorry PH you are struggling today. I know it's hard when you have to handle everything yourself. Find your comfort today in God.
Glad the boys e-mailed you. They are thinking of you.
Sooners, your w can't see the changes right now. She is still so focused on herself. After 2 years my h is still blaming me. It's easier to blame others than it is to look inside yourself. Keep doing what you are doing and remember the changes are for you not your w. If she notices then it's a bonus.
My h is coming over today. He has been depressed PH and then brings his mood over here. I don't know how to help him.
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
glam, Thanks. Yes, I am trying to take my pain to God. Maybe my H is going baclwards for now, to complete the journey. I hope so. I hope I don't have to go through this pain for too much longer. I did entertain the idea of "running away" somewhere really far away from my H and the boys.
I know it's hard to deal with your H's depressed moods. Ask God to show you how to help him, and whether you need to help him. And the help may come in the form of just quietly and lovingly being there for your H. Right now, I think I would rather be in your shoes than mine. I think my H is depressed PLUS wants to stay away.
I'm sorry you are having a hard day, I am also. We should be together & just have a good cry together!!
You know, my H was jealous of the dogs too & my attention to them. He felt like I put them before him. I didn't but that is what he thought.
It's hard to know what to pray anymore. He got remarried & everything was so quick. How could he just stop loving me, as I said on my thread, I didn't imagine his love for me, it was real.
nlt, Yes, wish we could cry together and pray together!
It seems the Enemy uses situations and our/spouses' weaknesses to deceive our spouses.
Pray to God to show you waht to pray for. I have heard of cases where the H divorced OW after a few years and reconnect with their W. So it's not impossible for your M to be restored. I don't think he stopped loving you. He's confused and has stuffed those feelings deep. It was real love.
And if he divorced you so quick, he can also divorce OW quickly. Pray to God to show you or confirm whether he's restoring your M. The song you found in the attic seemed to be a sign, but pray for confirmation.
PH I do hear you on the "running away". I was trying to figure out how to do that when all this happened. Not because I didn't love my h or wanted to keep the kids from him.
In my mind it was easeir to move away and start fresh than replay all in my mind. I have stuck it out and keep forging ahead the best way I know how.
My h was depressed and wanted to stay away too. In the past 3 months and since the meds he is peeking more. He also realizes that when he is depressed it is best to be around us. He does find joy in being with us. H has admitted this to c.
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
I'm sorry you are having a hard day, I am also. We should be together & just have a good cry together!!
You know, my H was jealous of the dogs too & my attention to them. He felt like I put them before him. I didn't but that is what he thought.
It's hard to know what to pray anymore. He got remarried & everything was so quick. How could he just stop loving me, as I said on my thread, I didn't imagine his love for me, it was real.
(((HUGS)))
from charlyne's Q&A which I highly recommend you visit:
Q4: My husband just called to announce he has been remarried! I am devastated. What do I do? (click for answer) Kim responds: I know from personal experience how devastating a remarriage can seem. But sometimes God has plans that we don't see or can't even fathom. And as difficult as it is right now, we have to hang on to that scripture from Romans 8:28 - "And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him who have been called according to his purpose." Paul writes about ALL things - not just the good things, or the easy things, or the nice things - but ALL things.
The guilt and failure you are feeling are from the enemy. He would like nothing better than to sow seeds of anger, self-doubt and guilt in our lives. Then maybe we will let go of our promises from God. Then maybe we will give up our stand for a restored marriage and a healed family. Then maybe he will have one more family that God has called under his belt.
You have been called to a very important assignment - to stand in the gap for your loved one; to pray for his salvation and repentance, to be that angel as mediator at his side. Your continued, faithful prayer can make the difference for the one you love.
"Yet if there is an angel on his side as a mediator, one out of a thousand, to tell a man what is right for him, to be gracious to him and say, 'Spare him from going down to the pit; I have found a ransom for him'- then his flesh is renewed like a child's; it is restored as in the days of his youth .He prays to God and finds favor with him, he sees God's face and shouts for joy; he is restored by God to his righteous state." Job 33:23-26.
I know this is a tough time. I know you are hurting and hurting for your children as well. Let God be your Blessed Comforter tonight. I pray that He will shower you with His comfort and strength as you continue this journey.
These answers have developed in response to questions we have received over many years. May you consult the answers with an open Bible and an open heart, thus allowing God's Holy Spirit to help you find the truth.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
