Completely and utterly devastated--how to cope

[Jen_Jam]

Let's talk alien spew

The cab took 3 hours to arrive, and H said he was getting really stressed out with me there.

Then he got annoyed by a couple of things I said, which weren't actually leading or controlling, but which he took as such. He was going to go to town with me and meet some friends from work. Then the cab was very late, like 1130 PM, so I said that I assumed he wasn't coming anymore, and he got really mad and asked why I would assume that. I had assumed that because the place he was meant to go closed at 12. He said that he was just so used to me being controlling...

The first one - i's not your fault about the weather. Secondly, you are spot on to say you weren't being leding/controlling.

These are examples of the alien spew that they tend to come out with.Think the character of Regan in The Exorcist .... it's not the REAL them, it helped me a great deal to think my Hhad ben takn over by an alien and hi behaviour was horrid, not him.

How does a LBS deal wit alien spew? Well, it's not pretty so we just go "EWWWW!" and ignore it.

You have a lot of positives here, keep your eye on them. And remember it usallis a case of three steps forward, two back. The WAS likes to hold on to the comfort blanket. Please don't worr about this too much.

PS I see you're ging to Wroclaw - one of the prettiest cities in Poland, I am told. If you get the chance go to Krakow too. I lived in Katowice about 10 years ago (wouldn't recommend visiting there though!). The salt mines are good, and if you can mange it there is also the Auschwitz museum, although be warned it's pretty emotional for obvious reasons.