Just thought I'd stop by and say hello. I think you handled the get together with H really well and was really pleased that he was OK with touching you and physical contact. I was just thinking, along the lines of trying to be friends with H, that it might e worth reading RollerCoasterRider's posts (search her name on the search page). she had an H who was MLC and wrote very eloquently about being supportive and friendly at the beginning of the crisis, setting boundaries later.
I can't believe your H denied OW when you had a picture of them kissing. Flipping heck! I agree about the chances of their R lasting, though, in that they have no chance at all.