He is just following the script. This is what they do. It is up to you to set the pace and the boundaries. You are not stupid. You are human in a very tough and unfair situation. Show your H confidence and the ability to make decisions for yourself (setting limits). He will look up to this.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
