BA, could I suggest something different than going dark? Your H reaches for you and looks for your support. Give it to him, but on YOUR schedule. Take control of when he sees you. Set up the night(s) that you are available for him and he can take it or leave it. I think in your sitch that if you give him a time when you will be available it would be similar to telling a little kid when he can go to the candy store.
It certainly isn't easy to see him walk in and out of your life every other day but IMO you should be his best friend, that's an opportunity many of us don't get. Just as you say, love is patient.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
