I am a bit confused about this too, but my L has advised me that this will all work in our favor in the long run, so the best thing to do is wait it out. He is saying that W is painting herself into a big corner w/ her actions here and if we try to do something we may end up giving her an out. So, I'm being patient, but it still kills me.
I just want the house to sell quickly so I can move that phase of my life forward. The next thing is the parenting evaluation and then the discussion on whether or not I try to force W to move closer to an equidistant location from both of our workplaces.
It all sucks and I'm frustrated, but I've hired one of the best and most experienced in Phoenix, so I'm trusting his call on this. I just hate the whole thing.