It was too soon! (You already knew that!) And yes, he is lost. He doesn't seem to me to have any inclination to get unlost. He has decisions he could make, he knows what they are, and he chooses not to.
I think dark is a very good plan. Don't answer the phone. Say NO when he want to come over. And NO ML! I think he may be afraid of being alone. I'm not sure that means he wants to be with you.
He may not think so, but I think he is playing a game, and I think it is time for you to stop it.
