Yes Snodderly....my H has it so good. I thought a lot about that. Last Saturday, in one breath he tells me he is going on vacation for the day (and we all know that he isn't going alone)and in the next he is inquiring about his vision and dental coverage. I know I have to let this go, but it really upset me.
Sunday, d13 spent the day with h's sisters family. When I dropped her off his sister said to me that h runs from her whenever she is over at their parent's home. Literally runs. His sisters and brother all tried to help him, talk to him about getting help, ...he has pretty much burned his bridges with them for now. She can't believe that he looks and acts like an 18 year old and is not called on the carpet by their parents (who he lives with ).
Whatever. I can't get into it with his family. The siblings have washed their hands of him and it is not my problem.
So, I didn't call or hear from H all week until friday. I tried to channel my anger (over the cake-eating) into my work and the kids. H called me on friday as the kids finished camp on thurs and asked if I had heard from d13. I told him she was probably sleeping. He said he would stop by and take her out to lunch. Fine.
He sounded very quiet and down. Said he was tired. I was bad and asked how his day trip was. He said "he slept." Yeah right. Today he came by to take d13 shopping. I was by the pool and he sat down for a minute. He looks terrible. Tired and his voice is hoarse. Oh well. Not my problem.
Snodderly, I love my H but it is getting hard to keep on forgiving him. I truly wish I knew which way this was going to turn, but I guess it is out of my hands. Focus on the kids...that's all i can do....but I am tired of the hurt that keeps piling on.
