News of the weird...my wife asks me to go school shopping with her and the kids. It's probably a financial decision for her but still weird considering our current sitch. She asked me Thursday and I agreed without really thinking about it....It sank in and it got me kind of nervous...thinking maybe this could be an opportunity to reconnect..but then again I know that I don't want to read too much into the offer or the day of shopping.
We went today and it went pretty well. We got along very well, had a few laughs, and remenisced(sp.) a little. The experience could have been better because the kids were not cooperating and my W was a little aggravated with them. I tried to smooth it over which was a very familiar activity. It made me really think about what a lot of our time together was like. Many times I would be trying to calm her down when the kids got her aggravated.
It's funny, because many times I remember me trying to calm her down and the kids coming to me because she was being mean to them. Other times I would be the strict disciplinarian and she would think I was going overboard.
Back to the shopping....I tried to keep the peace and it was tough. But the two of us did get along pretty well. And she did not once mention "his" name, which was good. She did mention her trip to WI a couple of times but nothing too bothersome for me. Then, at the last stop we went to a store and she was looking into buying sheets and claimed she had tore her foot thru "their" sheets...sweet, hugh?
I tried to brush it off and I took her back and said good bye..I guess it was better than nothing but it really made me wonder if I wanted to get back together with her. It reminded me of some of the aggravating times we used to have. But another part of me say's I really care about her and she is my wife that i swore to stand by....It's like and can just see the future when this guy dumps her...and it hurts me to see her hurting...but maybe i'm wrong and they will have a lifelong relationship...It just muddles up my emotions even more....ugh!
H 42 W 37 M17 T20 years 3 daughters 11,11,14 seperated 11/26/07 EA neighbor/ moved in w/ him 2/8 Filed for D 01/08 finalized soon