Hi Steelers ....never heard of the show ! Not sure I'll ever become friends with ow....then again, I never thought H would ever leave me either. We don't know what God has planned !
Saffie, I went to St.Tropez and to Venasque in the Provence ...it was lovely. How about you ?
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
Cinders, I'm so happy to read this morning that everyone had a nice time away. You and your children are so close and you described your situation very well....mother hen and her chicks back in the fold.
I think it was very nice of you to wrap up a small gift for the ow. You know, sometimes we have to bite the bullet to pave the way in order to get what we want in the end. In your case, friendship w/your h and also by doing what you did, it shows the children your kindness in a very unusual situation. Who knows, this may be a turning point in your life whereby the kernals of friendship will begin to grow more firmly in the soil of once way. Just keep your watering can handy to water those kernals periodically.
Enjoy the rest of today w/your little family. I'm sure all of you have lots to share w/each other.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I can't say I would have gave a gift to the OW. You are amazing. I think that was a wonderful thing to do. Glad you had a good vacation.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
I understand your reluctance to meet OW. I feel the same about my H OW.
There is a part of me that knows this ‘fear’ gives her power over me .. ,makes her seem much more important than she is. The thought of meeting with her gives me a huge feeling of dread. I just can’t get past this either. Even hearing my son mention her name makes me feel nauseous.
I wonder at times if it is that I am so darn hurt by her (and my H) that I just want to keep away to protect myself. Hide away kind of … I suppose I feel inferior…she must be better than me if my H chose her over me …
The ‘rational’ part of my brain knows that like any fear when faced it will evaporate. The only thing to fear is fear itself. She can’t harm me … she has done her worst. She has a hell of a lot more to lose than I do .. and yet, like you I am not ready either.
I don’t know; this is all kind of jumbled I just wanted to let you know I understand and you are not alone with this.
Nutty x
Be The Greener Grass.
Me 40 H 42 Son 11 Married 15 years. Left May 2006 after gambling spree I had EA August 2006 OW Aug 07 after another gambling spree (she will make me happy - stop me gambling!) I filed for divorce 9th April 2008.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
We spent the time in Spain in Tarragona and in France we went to the Loire this year. We generally either go to near Perpignon or over to the east southern coast near Nice, but we fancied seeing some Chateaus this time in France. I just love it over there - so relaxing. I could well see us retiring over there.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
Today I found out that ow is actually the same type of person I am. She does everything for H. Adores him, like I used to. He went and found a new version of me. I wouldn't have dated a married man, but ow seems to have the same type of character that I have.
My H just shot back in time.
I am doing very well ! Cleaned the whole house today, pool yesterday ! I have an appointment with my new neighbour tomorrow as he plans to build next door and I'm not sure I want that..H will be there too.
The kids, myself and H are off on Thursday for our weekend in Eurodisney and France. Not feeling nervous at all. Weird, I used to be... Oh well. Hope you are all well ! Take care xxx
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
