So I married a sex addict...

[happycamper]

Had a good day, for a number of reasons. I think doing that budget last night was a turning point for me. I am currently reading a book on divorce and one of the things they say is that if you are having trouble letting go, try to see if there is anything you are frightened of about losing your partner. I think I was terrified that I wouldn't be able to manage financially, and therefore was terrified of losing H. Once I took a good look at the financial picture, I could see that I could cope with losing H.

H is home today for the weekend, and I am trying to maintain my detachment. I told him about my budget, as that is definite 'we are divorcing' talk. He was really pleased I had been able to do it. It helps me to keep the divorce 'live' whilst he is living here, very important not to slip back into old R again.

Also I have really focused on me today - looked nice, worn make-up, worn perfume, had fun with children, not talked about our R (apart from the budget) - all GAL things, all DBing I think. Iamlost really encouraged me to keep 'DBing', seeing it as beneficial for me.