"What are your choices, Puppy? (1) Accept the status quo, (2) get a divorce and try to start over with someone new, or (3) make some positive changes in yourself and how you treat your spouse, and hope that they begin to return the favor. I still think (3) is the best option, even without a guarantee."
Dearest B,
I almost did not find this thread, which means I almost would never have read your response to me. But, when I read it this morning, I cried. You are so beautiful. (I know. It's a song by Joe Cocker, right)?
There are many things I can say to you in this message, but there are more things I want to think about first before really getting to the bottom of things. It is obvious that you have been extremely *considerate* of me, as evidenced by the fact that you read all of my threads.
I do have an "...overly full plate," and I do still love my H. I also, however, subscribe to the philosophy that you prescribed above in the section I quoted you from.
You mentioned in your post that you were "unclear" about the status of our divorce. You asked if he is going to "take the deal" that my attorney offered. You may have missed that post. He called me last Friday night and told me that he was not going to the deal.
He said he was not going to wait eight months and go to counseling and all that. "We're getting a divorce, Suzanne," is basically the way he put it.
I DID see a packet for him in the mail Monday from his attorney. That could be the reason for his low mood when he spoke to me on Wednesday night about having to "give the dog away, and running out of money." I suspect he's getting very ready to make his "counter-offer" probably next week.
Thank you so much for reading my thread. I am in the process of reading your full thread now, while starting with the lastest one with you and dancequeen and NTE, which took place in May, when we were splitting up.
