I wonder what your wife would say if we asked her what you could change to make your marriage better Phil?
Absolutely nothing, because she isn't talking. So how am I to know. She told me there is no hope for reconcilation.
Yes I will and have become a better parent.
I wasn't attacking Amy either, Ian.
I believe this is a slow dynamic. One that is working. It is a time factor. She just wants to run. Do what she wants and sew some oats or something, because she has been with me since she was 17.
She is a spoiled brat. She doesn't know how to handle the kids. She is selfish.
WTF, did I tell you about sticking up for people. Let people fight their own battles with me.
Ian, really I think the best approach is to do nothing. I'm not ready to drop the hammer, give up and cause ultamatums.
It wasn't one night of vandalism either. It was a summer of terror. The entire neighborhood was getting rocks thrown through their windows. Over thirty house were hit. We were hit twice. Do you know how many nights I didn't sleep. Watching camera's. Jumping up at every sound. Listening to the scanner. The first incident I let go. The second I became a man of action.
Why didn't we move. Because I busted my a$$ putting on a 24 x 30 addition on the house for little miss queen. I remodeled this entire house. Replaced all the windows. Practically gutted the orginal house. Put in all new hard wood floors. Installed another bathroom. Redid the kitchen. Put on a huge 12 by 34 deck, that wraps around the side of the house 4 x 24, with an eight foot kick out. I did most of the work myself. I was constantly working on this house.
FOR HER! For this family.
Now I have to clean it alone.
I really think all of this is getting counter productive.
Do I think that the vandilism caused the break up of my marriage. I think it played a huge role in it.
True there are things in the way I have interacted with her about matters. But really she was an immature shelfish brat that wanted wanted wanted, and it was never good enough.
I have been under an extreme amount of stress. Work issues, never knowing what is going on with my job. Building an addition. When the addition was mostly completed. A became a full time online student. So that I could get my degree and open up more doors for my job.
I was doing all of this for the betterment of my family.
All she did was call me a lazy, alcholic, dead beat dad, that was never home.
Really a straight A. A go to guy at work. A guy that can do just about anything even if he doesn't know how.
Drama... yes it's drama. Her drama.
Yes I need to be humble with her. I need to keep things calm.
I vowed never to use the evil words on her again.
Notice she is showing up earlier after work to pick up the kids. When summer is over, the ice cream store will close earlier. So it will only be a little after 10 when she picks them up.
