Anyone here with a WAS and no children?

[MsMelancoly]

Hi, this topic was mentioned on someone elses thread & I was wondering what some of you feel & how you deal with it (what techiques you've learned). The topic is control & fear.

My H is a WAS & when he left he just took essentials. A few months ago (before I found DB) I emailed him that he can stop by & take any of his stuff that he wants. I know, he does stop over (when I'm not home) - to grab a few things. I just noticed some of his nic naks & toys gone (yes, an H with many oh toys). Fear has started to creep in & I know control is at the root. I want him to be happy & have his things. But the more he takes - the more, I really feel that he is leaving this M for good. Somtimes, I just feel like packing up all his stuff. Anyone have any advise??