The other day I left my W a VM about wishing she had let me know something before she came by and picked her stuff up, just have been a little more respectful. Anyway she called today to apologize. I told her that I accept her apology but to not worry about it.
Anyhow when talking about us, nothing in her mind as changed. She still doesn't want to work on our marriage. She says it's my problem and I will have to deal with the consequences. She did mention that in these four months she hasn't filed for divorce but she was thinking about it and ask me if I was going to fight her on it. She said her reason for not filing yet was due to her up bringing and religious belief. I won't give in for the same reason, thinking about it we have that in common. I said well you are pushing my back into a corner. She ask what I meant. I said well you are asking me to give you something that goes against everything I believe in. She feels like I owe her that much. I wanted to ask her this question that I didn't get to which was this: "We have been together for six and half years and apart for 4 months, can we just give it some time?" A few hours later I sent her a text about calling her for 5 min to ask my question, she replied "no send me a text I have nothing to say to you nor do I want to hear anything you have to say" I didn't send her a text because I think some things you should hear each others voice. Anyhow several hours later I sent her a text that said "I am praying for you and us." I am still trying to stand, do the right thing, and come from my heart.
Sooners, It was sweet of your W to apologize. If she is not filing because of her beliefs, it seems you have a leg to stand on. You need to pray for yourself as well, for God to show you what YOU need to change in yourself. It seems she is staying away because she isn't confident of things working out between you due to the past. Focus on your changes and ask God for help to change whatever it is, if there is anything to change.
