Not sure if you'll get this before seeing H, but I like the idea of you experimenting with asking him a quesiton that might get him to open up about his feelings. Even better if it's not R related.
In my R, I think H never really opened up to me; it's probably the main reason why he felt we didn't communicate well. He's opening up now, but more so about his work which is a safe and neutral topic that I can be supportive about.
