"This is the hard part. When he is away it's as if we don't exist. Not sure what to make of that. Any thoughts?"
Yes, because my H does this, too.
He told me that just because we do not hear from him does not mean that he stops missing and thinking about us. He said he thinks about all of us all the time and misses us as well.
Steelers, I think my H thinks about me too but he works very hard to block me out. He stuffs his feelings inside so he doesn't have to feel loss. I just don't know what to think about this all.
I don't know whether to treat him for his BD, especiallt since he told me to move on day before my BD, as if saying "don't bother celebrating birthdays because we're not together". But then he said he wants to be friends. Don't friends celebrate BDs, though?
The boys didn't acknowledge my BD this year, probably because he never told them. He did last year.
