Wow PH so sorry you are still working. Yeah I just don't get it why he can't answer when we call. He said this would change, but I guess not yet.
Well, in the beginning I would always suggest to h that we could go to dinner or a movie etc. Many many times h would say NO. He would say I just need to get through today, this week or whatever.
I was persistant and now I still mostly sugeest things, but he almost always says YES.
I don't know what to suggest for you, but you could always send your h an e-mail something like Hey h, would you like to join me this friday night for a movie at my place? I just rented such and such and was thinking you might want to see this movie too. Let me know. Hope all is well with you. Love PH
Have you ever asked your h to join you?
glam, I just finished working, phew! Now, I am SOOO tired. Only got 5 hours sleep last night and my naturopath told me I need EXTRA rest too.
Immediately post-S, he refused to do anything with me. I asked.
Then about 4 months post-S until about 9-months post-S, I used to invite him for lunch or dinner with the reason of thanking him for his help with this or that. He would accept and have a really good time.
Mar 2007, he started to turn me down. I stopped asking. Then he initiated coming over (to help me with the basement, etc.). It lasted for about 2 months (last Thanksgiving).
Jun-Jul 2007, he'd arranged for vists with the boys (during their summer visit)
Sep-Nov 2007, he initiated visits to help with this and that.
In Dec 2007, he tried to initiate ML, but I told him it was ahrd for me emotionally when he left afterwards. He also felt the same.
Jan 2008, we started ML again. We seemed to be getting closer but then
Feb 2008, I brought up the financial figures he'd asked for 18 months before. That seemed to turn things sour... Or maybe my imagination.
April 2008, the 1st "you need to move on" speech. May 2008, I told him I was praying for God to heal our M 1st Jul 2008, 2nd "you need to move on" speech Jul 2008, no contact at all Aug 2008, contact after 5 weeks, saw him twice in 3 days, no intimacy
I am nervous now that if I ask him out, he'd feel pressure, and think I don't get that he wants me to move on.
His BD is coming up in 2 weeks. I am contemplating whether to give him a card and make a BD cake, no gift (as I did the last 2 years while spearated). I think I need to at least acknowledge, even if no cake. E.g. a card, VM or text message. The cards were not romantic anyway and won't be.
